We all have those days when kindness sometimes takes a back seat. It is not because we are bad people or we just want to be mean. But with so many things going on in our life, making a conscious effort to treat ourselves and others more kindly is not something we think much about. But being kinder every day is a habit that everyone can build. It may take some time to stick, but with continued practice it will lead to a more positive and fulfilling life.
Strive to be kind to yourself. Be kind to yourself the moment you wake up. Regardless of the situation you are currently in, think of something kind to say to yourself. Do not allow self-doubt or negative thought to take root. And now matter how bad you may feel at any given moment, give yourself a pat in the back and tell yourself that you can do it. Practicing self-compassion and kindness helps you to extend the same courtesy to others.
Always have something to be grateful for. Nurture a gratitude mindset. Think of something to be grateful for every day. This exercises your mind to focus on the good things that happened or are happening in your life. Practicing gratitude likewise leaves you happier. It brings to fore the positive things you may have overlooked while you were busy with your daily routines.
Suspend judgment. Have you ever been judged by some? How did it feel? Judging people is easy until you find yourself in the receiving end. It can be an unpleasant experience to say the least. You can be kinder every day by suspending judgment and giving people the benefit of the doubt. Avoid making assumptions about people’s actions.
Pause before you criticize. Criticism is a bitter pill that no one enjoys taking. Regardless of how constructive the criticism may be, you have to pause first before you start doing it. Find the right time and the proper way to say it. The person involved will most likely appreciate the gesture if you consider his or her feelings.
Notice the good. Find what is good in people as opposed to focusing on what is annoying or frustrating about them. Some people seem to be unlikable at the get go, but you can try to look for something positive about them. Noticing the good shifts your focus away from the things that you may not like about them.
Be present. You can be kinder just by being fully present in your interactions with people. You can actively listen to what they say without letting your mind wander into what you think are more important things. Being in the moment helps you make the most of the time you spend with family, friends, and the people around you.