Self-Kindness Project – Habits That Can Improve Your Life

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It’s been said that you can’t give what you don’t have. The same thing is true to kindness. You can’t genuinely give it to others if you don’t receive it from yourself. If you are like some people, you may be too hard on yourself. You beat yourself up for missed opportunities or mistakes made. And if left unchecked, it could become a habit that may affect your life in more ways than you can imagine. Thankfully, self-kindness is something that you can practice every day. Here are some of the kind things you can do to yourself.

Start your day on a positive note

Your morning routines can influence the rest of your day whether you like it or not. So you might as well begin it on a positive note. Wake up early, spend time to meditate or simply quiet your mind, write down the things you are grateful for, make a plan for the day, and read or listen to something inspiring. Whatever it is that you choose to do, make sure that you devote at least thirty minutes of the time after you wake up to do something positive.

Give yourself time to prepare for the day

You’re not doing yourself any good by rushing through your morning preparations. It’s stressful to feel anxious and worried about running late or missing an appointment. Be kinder to yourself by allotting more time for all the preparations you need. Enjoy the simple pleasures of eating a healthy breakfast. Leave home with plenty of time to spare for unexpected delays. Sometimes self-kindness is all about paying attention to the little things that can improve your daily experiences.

Tackle the hardest things first

Maximize your time by dealing with the unpleasant or hard things first. This way you have the easier stuff to work on when your energy begins to wane. You have to give yourself the opportunity to accomplish your goals by understanding your peak times. This should help you schedule tasks to get the optimum results.

Pace yourself

Don’t work yourself to the ground. Regardless of how busy things get, always find time for a short break. Breathe, step away from whatever it is you are doing, and take time to gather yourself. You can be more clearheaded and productive if you treat yourself with kindness even on your busiest days.

Receive criticism with grace

Criticisms are uncomfortable and may be painful at times. But it won’t do you any good to focus on the negative things. Use them as references on how you can improve yourself. Pick the lessons and things you need to work on and forget about the things that will not be of any help to you.

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Taking Small Steps towards a Positive Mindset

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Positivity is not about denying that negative things are happening in and around you. It is not about escaping reality and always thinking that everything is well and good. Developing a positive mindset involves acknowledging the bad without dwelling on it. You do it by not allowing negativity to take center stage in your daily life. Like many things in life, this is easier said than done. But it does not make it impossible. You may just have to be more mindful of what you let in and stay in your mind.

Decide to dwell on the positive

You can either take control or just let your thoughts dictate how your day unfolds. It is up to you to choose the narratives in your mind. You can dwell on negative thoughts and deal with the stress and worries that often come with them. Or you can focus on the positive things and avoid needless suffering. The latter seems like an obvious choice if you want some peace of mind.

Explore other perspectives

Some negative thoughts are there for a reason. They may present lessons that need to be learned or problems that you have to resolve. Simply ignoring them are not exactly your best options. One of the many ways you can use the negative things in your life to your advantage is to change the way you view them. You can maintain a positive outlook while addressing whatever negativity may be hindering you. It is a more productive way to deal with things that may fester if you just bury it beneath the surface.

Find the good in every situation

You can either let bad things get you down or you can find the good from them. In the end, it is always about the choices you make. Tough times happen to everyone. There will be days when things just seem to spiral out of control. There are days when you feel unbalanced and too stressed to see the good in everything. It is usually during these moments when finding something positive about any situation can put you back on track.

Fake it until it becomes natural to you

It is when you feel least like being positive that you need to fake it. Act like the positive person you imagine yourself to be. Mimic the behaviors of people that exude positivity. It takes practice but you will eventually get the hang of it.

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How to Be Kinder Every Day

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We all have those days when kindness sometimes takes a back seat. It is not because we are bad people or we just want to be mean. But with so many things going on in our life, making a conscious effort to treat ourselves and others more kindly is not something we think much about. But being kinder every day is a habit that everyone can build. It may take some time to stick, but with continued practice it will lead to a more positive and fulfilling life.

Strive to be kind to yourself. Be kind to yourself the moment you wake up. Regardless of the situation you are currently in, think of something kind to say to yourself. Do not allow self-doubt or negative thought to take root. And now matter how bad you may feel at any given moment, give yourself a pat in the back and tell yourself that you can do it. Practicing self-compassion and kindness helps you to extend the same courtesy to others.

Always have something to be grateful for. Nurture a gratitude mindset. Think of something to be grateful for every day. This exercises your mind to focus on the good things that happened or are happening in your life. Practicing gratitude likewise leaves you happier. It brings to fore the positive things you may have overlooked while you were busy with your daily routines.

Suspend judgment. Have you ever been judged by some? How did it feel? Judging people is easy until you find yourself in the receiving end. It can be an unpleasant experience to say the least. You can be kinder every day by suspending judgment and giving people the benefit of the doubt. Avoid making assumptions about people’s actions.

Pause before you criticize. Criticism is a bitter pill that no one enjoys taking. Regardless of how constructive the criticism may be, you have to pause first before you start doing it. Find the right time and the proper way to say it. The person involved will most likely appreciate the gesture if you consider his or her feelings.

Notice the good. Find what is good in people as opposed to focusing on what is annoying or frustrating about them. Some people seem to be unlikable at the get go, but you can try to look for something positive about them. Noticing the good shifts your focus away from the things that you may not like about them.

Be present. You can be kinder just by being fully present in your interactions with people. You can actively listen to what they say without letting your mind wander into what you think are more important things. Being in the moment helps you make the most of the time you spend with family, friends, and the people around you.

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